Decision Making Skills: 5 Decision Making Tools
Today I am covering decision making skills and the decision making tools you need, so you can start making wise decisions in your personal and professional life. Welcome back to True Potential TV, I’m Andrea Cairella your Relationship Consultant and Licensed Professional Counselor. Today I will be covering effective decision making and a variety of decision making tools you can use when you feel stuck or unsure about what to do next. Have you ever been at a crossroads in your life where you feel overwhelmed, uncertain and confused about which direction to go in or what step you should take next? If you are like many men and women out there who are struggling with indecision, you may find yourself ruminating back and forth between various options. You may feel 1) internal or external pressure to make “the right decision” which causes you to delay the decision, 2) make an impulsive one, 3) or avoid the decision all together.
You may feel stuck in a vicious and unproductive cycle of anxiety and self-doubt. When we are feeling anxious we become more indecisive and doubt ourselves more, consequentially, when we second guess ourselves and put off decisions we become more anxious…and so the cycle goes round and round endlessly. By managing our anxiety, trusting ourselves and taking action we can start using decision making skills and become an effective decision maker.
1. Create A Pro And Con List- On decision making tool is to get a piece of paper draw a vertical line down the middle of the page and a horizontal line across the middle of the page, thus creating 4 separate boxes. In the top left hand box you will write Pros and in the top right hand box you will write Cons. Next you will write a list of the pros and cons for one option and the pros and cons for the alternative option. For example, if you are considering ending a relationship, you would write a list of the pros and cons for staying in the relationship and the pros and cons to ending the relationship.
2. Connect with Your Inner Wisdom- Each of us has an emotional aspect that chooses pleasure over pain and avoids hassles and discomfort. We tend to unconsciously prioritize short-term rewards rather than long-term objectives requiring effort. To get out of this emotional and mental rollercoaster ride you can shift into a wise state of mind by first connecting with your body, your breath, stillness and allow yourself to listen and tap into to the wisdom within. Next you can calmly ask yourself key questions like: What can I do now? What can I learn from this? What can I gain from delaying this decision? What are the benefits from making this decision now?
3. Develop Effective Decision Making Skills: Sometimes we may 1st need to learn mindfulness skills so we can stay in the present moment or learn how to manage our emotions effectively. Other times we may need to learn how to challenge negative beliefs, tolerate distress or be effective in our interpersonal relationships in a conscious manner.
4. Rejecting the Need for Certainty- When you believe that every decision has a “right answer” then every small decision can lead to over-analysis and thus paralysis. If you remind yourself that you cannot have certainty and that you don’t need it, you can begin to harness your intuition and develop self-confidence and inner trust by making choices despite not knowing the precise outcome. Remember there are many roads leading to Rome and that every problem has a variety of answers. Sometimes the best choice is choosing the best option available at the time and moving forward knowing that you can handle and face whatever lies ahead of you. 5. Be Satisfied with your Decision- When making decisions, individuals are either “maximizers” or “satisficers.” “Maximizers” consider every possible option and focus on missed opportunities we said no to or focusing on one choice we are saying yes to. “Satisficers” lower their expectations and focus on the option that is good enough.
As a result “satisfiers” are more settled and happier individuals. Now I’d love to hear from you. Which decision making tools do you use? Which decision making skills are most important to you? Leave a comment below, because I want to know what you are thinking. And if you liked this video, give it a thumbs up and share it with your friends. And also make sure you are subscribed to my channel, so you don’t miss any upcoming True Potential episodes. You’ll also want to head over to TruePotentialCounseling.com to get additional resources and relationship tips to help you experience more harmony, connection and love in your relationship..
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